Title, Intelligenza emotiva per un figlio. Superbur: Saggi. Author, John Gottman. Publisher, Rizzoli, ISBN, , Length, Intelligenza emotiva per un figlio. Una guida per i genitori by John Gottman, , available at Book Depository with free delivery. Buy Intelligenza emotiva per un figlio. Una guida per i genitori by Joan Declaire, John Gottman, A. Di Gregorio, B. Lotti (ISBN: ) from Amazon’s.
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Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Want to Read emotuva. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Refresh and try again. Open Preview See a Problem? Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. Intelligence That Comes from the Heart Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and ejotiva their emotional world.
And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life gtotman, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Gpttmanpages. Published August 12th by Simon Schuster first published January 1st To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. Lists with This Book. Jan 19, Gail rated it liked it. John Gottman should feel sad for two reasons: I John Intellligenza should feel sad for two reasons: When they cry out of fear, sadness, or anger, they experience only more fear, more sadness, and more anger.
Now that he has dismissing and disapproving parents on board and laissez-faire and emotion coaching parents boredGottman sets about explaining how a parent switches styles: View all 9 comments. Jul 18, Jason Moss rated it it was amazing.
A must read for every dad. Positively changes your perspective on parenting. Feb 07, Elise rated it it was amazing Shelves: Every parent should read this book. Parents of toddlers, parents of teenagers. There are so many things in this book that can help parents build trusting, communicative relationships with their children, and establish methods to help a child become “emotionally intelligent.
It took a little while for me to be convinced that the strategies in this book would be effective, but now I’m trying to use intelligenzq every day in my parenting.
Gottman presents five key steps to “Emotion Coaching,” which help children understand and regulate their emotions.
The five key steps are these: Be aware of the child’s emotion 2. Recognize the emotion as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching 3. Listen empathetically and validate the child’s feelings 4.
Help the child verbally label emotions 5. Set limits while you help the child problem-solve Step number four I found especially enlightening as the book talked pwr how the act of labeling emotions can have a soothing effect on the nervous system: Children rarely understand their pr or can adequately express why they’re having those feelings, so they need a parent to help them label their emotions.
Another important thing I learned from this book is when to ignore “Parental Agenda. You look kind of sad. Here was Mom, appearing to be interested in how he was feeling. But as soon as he opens up, she responds with criticism. Granted, it’s well-intentioned, mild criticism, but it’s criticism nonetheless. Gottman cites Haim Ginott’s principle: All feelings are permissible; not all behavior is permissible. Here’s some more from the book, in case you’re intrigued: Whether the crisis is a broken balloon, a failing emotivw grade, or the betrayal of a friend, such negative experiences can serve gottmsn superb opportunities to empathize, to build intimacy with our children, and to teach them ways to handle their feelings.
Instead, negative feelings dissipate when children can talk about their emotions, label them, and feel understood. It makes sense, therefore, to acknowledge low levels of emotion early on before they intellihenza into full-blown crises. Your child learns that you are his ally and the two of you figure out how to collaborate.
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Then if a big crisis occurs, you are prepared to face it together. Sep 03, Natalie rated it really liked it. Plus, it has helped immensely with taking care of a two and four year old. Jul 19, Shae rated it liked it Shelves: Other than that I did pick it up and put it down over the course of six weeks, continuing to come back to it as it gave me lots of food for thought.
In intslligenza big picture Gottman is peg “Emotion Coaching” which broken down to five steps is: Being aware of epr child’s emotions 2.
Recognizing the emotion as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching 3. Listening empathetically and validating the child’s feelings 4. Helping the child verbally label emotions 5. Setting limits while helping the child problem-solve. I personally didn’t get a lot out of the big picture information, but I did get a lot out of smaller points in the book. For example, it changed the way I looked at displays of fear and anger in my intellogenza and made me realize how dismissive I am of them.
Also prr chapters in the end about the father’s crucial role recapped a lot of good research and the following chapter which explored five different periods of children’s lives and their emotional development in each was a revelation to me. So, my final recommendation for this book is to not “read” it, but use it as a reference book.
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Skim the table of contents, section headings, etc. Mar 19, Natalie rated it liked it Shelves: I thought this book was very helpful in terms of things not to do shaming, escalating, etc. It was also pretty 90s dated–lots of stuff in here about saving kids from the rising danger of becoming criminals and hysterics about the ever rising rate of divorce and how uun will surely turn all I thought this book was very helpful in terms of things not to do shaming, escalating, etc.
It was also pretty 90s dated–lots of stuff in here about saving kids from the rising danger of becoming criminals and hysterics about the ever rising rate of divorce and how it will surely turn all our kids into little sociopaths. Skip the editorializing and just read the hands-on advice. Mar emottiva, Kara rated it liked it. I think this book would be really good for parents who aren’t sure what emotions are acceptable and how to handle their own emotions in relation to their childs’ emotions- clear as mud.
What I mean is, if you are ok with your child getting angry, upset, frustrated then you probably know most of what’s in this book.
But if you aren’t ok with yourself feelings these emotions, let alone a child, then you should read it to get on board. Kids are going to have emotions, for crying out loud, adults do I think this book would be really good for parents who aren’t sure what emotions are acceptable and how to handle their own emotions in relation to their childs’ emotions- clear as mud.
Kids are going to have emotions, for crying out loud, adults do. But how we teach our kids to handle them when they are young will reflect their ability to handle them as they get older. Inteoligenza was looking for more advice on how to figure out what is bothering my child. I can see his frustration- through many outlets- but we can’t identify what is causing it.
I guess if someone wrote a book on that parenting would be not so View all 3 comments. Standing ovation I can already tell figli this is a book that I will come back to many times, I’ll probably read it once a year to refresh. My mind is still reeling from all the literal wisdom I just inhaled. If you have kids or want to eventually, this is a must-read. May 01, Lance Agena rated it really liked it.
There are many parenting books out there that are as controversial as they are popular. You use what you find helpful and ignore what doesn’t fit in with your own personal parenting philosophy.
I found most of Goleman’s techniques in this book to be insightful and invaluable. Too often, we may find ourselves giving in to venting our anger or frustration at our children for our own emotional benefit, forgetting that they are not adept pfr reading their own feelings much less yours.
It is too easy There are many parenting books out there that are as controversial as they figlip popular. It is too easy to discount our little ones’ cries as merely manipulative attempts to get what they foglio. The author DOES recognize that children DO try to manipulate adults in this way and recommends not using emotion coaching in those instances.
This is a realistic, practical, and easily read book told from the perspective of a father who also relays helpful instances in his own life where he’d used emotion coaching. One benchmark that I often use to judge parenting books are their philosophies on punishment, particularly time-outs. Goleman believes in the proper implementation of time-outs.
They are to be consistent and respectful, not opportunities to emotionally berate or uh children. He believes that it is best used for children aged and should last about a minute. You may want use Figilo search-within-a-book feature and search for “time-out” to get a better idea. The author sites studies showing that emotional intelligence is linked to higher reading and math IQ’s, social competence, and physical health.